Chapter 6: Letting Your Husband Lead
My favorite quotes from this chapter:
God has placed him as the head of the family. when you submit to his leadership, you can rest assured that you are in God’s will. Even when you reluctantly submit, you will have the covering and blessing of God’s protection. God protects wives who let their husbands lead.
When a husband is not a natural leader, couples need to take great measures to purposefully place the husband as head of the home.
Even though many women assume (and even strive for) the leadership role themselves, they long to have their husbands step up to the plate and take control. One woman who has taken the leadership role in her family said, “I’ve tried whining, begging, and manipulating to get my husband to lead. He just won’t do it.” What this wife doesn’t realize is that in order for a ruler to step up another ruler must first step down…Could it be that these women are more concerned with changing their husbands than themselves?…If we are not submitting to the leadership of our husbands then we are not submitting to the leadership of God.
Confidence in Christ is what keeps us from despairing at the possibility of a husband’s wrong choice.
Trust God by letting your husband lead and resting in the fact that your security is based on the hope of Christ, not on your husband’s choices. Comfort him when he blows it and don’t respond with an arrogant attitude of superiority. The beauty of the whole thing is that your love will be demonstrated even more powerfully when you support your husband in his failures as fervently as in his success.
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Leslie Wiggins 
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This is excellent! I must read this book!Kim
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Must we as wives also be first submitted to God?Unless we have first surrendered ourselves at the cross of Christ, submission to one’s husband will always be only a half-baked surrender.
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I usually find it very easy to submit to my husband. He is a natural leader, and a godly man, so I trust him and respect him. I often wonder how I would respond if he wasn’t. It would be sooo much harder for me! I have a friend who’s husband is VERY difficult to let lead. She finds this issue very hard.
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I have yet to read a book written by a Christian woman who has found it extremely difficult to submit to her husband. Most of the books I have read write about submission like it is pretty simple. I’m probably wrong, but my theory is that these ladies are married to husbands who want to lead their families and are godly men. What about those women who are married to very passive men? What about women married to abusive men? These are some of the things I think about and how difficult submission must be. Not that they shouldn’t submit, but that it can be an intense internal struggle. I agree with Elizabeth regarding being first submitted to God. That must come first and be the foundation of submitting to a husband.
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I really liked this chapter too and quoted the last paragraqh in a post of mine awhile back.
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