Chapter 11 is the half-way point of The Excellent Wife. To celebrate making it this far, I am going to have another give-away. These two books
will go to one lucky lady who comments on this post. I love these little devotionals so much I have to give some away. I’ll announce a winner next Friday.
I am sorry about the lateness of my post. I have had a very busy day. I just could not move blogging up on my to-do list. So here I am wrapping up this post at o’dark:30.
Martha Peace writes, “The sexual bond between husband and wife is a gift from God for the enjoyment of physical intimacy and the procreation of life…Christian husbands and wives possess the potential to have sexual relations and in the process remain pure in their thoughts, actions, and motives.”
God designed sex in marriage for
1. physical intimacy in marriage
2. procreation of life
The physical union of husband and wife is designed to meet specific needs:
1. our God-given desire for companionship
2. to protect the husband and wife from temptation
3. the mutual giving and receiving of great pleasure and joy between the husband and wife.
Six biblical principles regarding sex within marriage:
1. Sex within marriage is holy and good.
2. Pleasure is assured and is not sinful.
3. The wife should be “other-oriented” and “self-oriented.”
4. Sexual relations should be regular and continuous.
5. The wife should never bargain with her husband in return for her favors
6. Sex relations are to be equal and reciprocal.
“Anything goes as long as it is mutually agreeable, pleasurable, and not offensive to the partner. Exceptions to this would include anything that is sinful such as, sodomy (anal penetration), watching pornography, and sharing sexual fantasies about other people (Galatians 5:19).”
“Don’t just glorify God on Sunday morning, but also in the intimacy of your marriage bed.”
- I appreciated Peace’s suggestions on page 122. The quote from Wayne Mack made me chuckle.
- I wonder if any wife has ever tried to take advantage of her rights over her husband’s body only to be turned down? I bet that doesn’t happen very often.
- I remembered a women’s conference I attended several years ago at which one of the questions during the panel discussion was about sex. Specifically, what is considered good and what is sinful in the marriage bed? The answer from all of the women on the panel was basically do whatever you’re comfortable doing, but don’t look at pornography. I agree with Peace’s additions of sharing fantasies that include other people and sodomy. Those are dehumanizing acts and they do not glorify God.
- Sexual intimacy between a husband and wife is a way we can glorify God.
- I have learned that sex is one way I can minister to my husband. Not only can I view it as “ministry,” but…
- Sex is also one way to remedy feeling disconnected.
- Frequent sex does protect a couple from temptation.
- One who is full loathes honey,
but to one who is hungry everything bitter is sweet. Proverbs 27:7
This can be a difficult subject about which to write. I realized as I wrote that I could approach this topic from many different angles. I could probably write a book about the work God has done in my heart and mind to get me to the point where I can agree with his word that sex is good, good for me, and that my purity is maintained when I am intimate with my husband. I just cannot fit it all into one post.
I know I am not the only woman ever to struggle through those issues; there is nothing unique about my story. Still, Karl has asked me when I’m going to write it all out. I have no idea, but I’m almost certain it won’t be in blog-form.
I’m going to turn it over to you now.
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