Nipping "I-Want-This-itis" in the bud

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Over the weekend, we visited the Georgia Aquarium. We had a great time enjoying all the animals and fish. We saw amazing creatures we had never seen before. Personally, it was a special time to remember how awesome and creative God is. I felt rewarded as a parent because our older kids repeatedly told Karl “thank you” for taking them to the aquarium. I just don’t hear “thank you” enough, so hearing thank you three or four times within a span of a few hours felt especially fantastic.

Karl and I were thinking we had made the right decision. We had done something that made everyone in the family happy. Not wanting to be too obvious, we were high-fiving each other with just our eyes. You know what I’m talking about…the look you have between you and your spouse that says, “YES! We are awesome!”

We were cruising towards the exit when we realized that our dreams of a perfect family outing were about to come crashing down. Our nightmare: the exit sign and the gift shop sign are one and the same. This is an evil strategy of all zoo, museum, fun park, and aquarium owners to force patrons into the gift shop. The sign could have read: “You are about to enter the time warp portion of our aquarium in which the past four hours of bliss and joy will be utterly forgotten in about five minutes.”

So that even though our children were so thankful to even go to the aquarium, their sin natures were awakened as we left because they saw miniature, take-home versions of everything under the sea. Karl and I locked our eyes on the bright shining light at the end of the dark aquarium merchandise tunnel–the door. The kids, on the other hand, were sucked into the plush piles of doom. “Thank you, Daddy! This was so fun!” turned into something like this:

They ran to us extending all kinds of oceanic, fishy cuteness. Oh, the begging was monumental. How did Karl put a stop to it? You need a little history. Back in December he opened savings accounts for each child. With birthdays and Christmas monies, they all have a good bit of cash saved up. He showed them how to use their bank books, then he showed them how, with just a few clicks on the computer, he can transfer money from their accounts to ours. So when the whining started, he simply said, “I paid for your ticket to see the aquarium. You don’t need any of those stuffed animals. You already have something similar, anyway. But if you really want it I can get it for you, then I’ll transfer money from your bank account to mine. Do you want to spend your own money?” They didn’t need more than a moment or two to decide that they didn’t really want that cute, stuffed, $25 beluga whale. Even I managed to walk past the souvenir coffee cups without twitching. Praise God, we all made it out of there still feeling happy about our day.


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7 responses to “Nipping "I-Want-This-itis" in the bud”

  1. What a good post. I, myself, sometimes get hit with the I-Want-This-ists.

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  2. Yes! I have found that my kids wants have changed as they’ve had to choose whether they would spend their *own* money on an item. They’ve begun to see things a little differently… I love the way y’all handled this!

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  3. I hear you about the gift shop thing. Usually all the stuff in there will be forgotten within days. I remember as a kid going on field trips. My mom would give me just enough money to buy a treat. I never got anything at the gift shop, but my friends were given a ton of money and bought a whole pile of stuff. NOw, as an adult, I see the wisdom. Back then, I thought my mom was cruel. :-)We struggle with this too. The kids all get allowances, but if they want to spend money, it comes out of their own pocketbook. It frustrates me when they buy something that I KNOW will only be loved for a couple of days. I try to point it out later. I always wonder if I, as the parent, should forbid them to buy it or if I should just let them waste their money and see the folly in it. Sigh.

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  4. That’s awesome – what a great idea about the bank accounts. Good to teach good decision making skills while they still have the “safety net” of mom & dad to make mistakes. Funny video too!We have friends with 4 kids in the family & the only very small TV they have is hooked up to a VCR. No TV shows whatsoever. She said the biggest reward from making that decision was the lack of influence by all the commercials for the kids. They almost never want for anything – or if they do, it’s very short & they don’t think about it anymore because they don’t have a commercial reminding them over & over how much they need it!Great post!

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  5. Well done!!

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  6. That was great. Those gift shops are so frustrating when we’re trying to teach the kids not to think so materialistically. I think you all handled that well. And I love the song, too. I also dislike the candy display right at the grocery check-out for the same reason – it just inspires impulse buying in the kids!

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    Julie Stiles Mills

    I love David Crawford! My daughter couldn’t understand the words to this one, so I went back and edited my “spoiled bumblebee” post to include the lyrics. It’s even funnier when you can catch everything he says. I can’t wait for his CD!Great post!

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